Romancing the Love Den

Are you ashamed to invite your lover to your bedroom for fear they might run away? Maybe your mess and chaos are not enhancing the romance in your relationship. If so, it’s time to romance in your own love den. Turn down the lights and set the stage by transforming your bedroom into a secret place for lovers meeting.
 
Add the sensual back to your personal space. When the bedroom starts to get cluttered with clothes and gym equipment or it just doesn’t feel sexy any longer, consider stepping it up. Turn your bedroom into a love den and rekindle your romance.
 
Make the bed the center of attention. Get the laundry and clutter off the bed and put away where it belongs. For your bedroom to be a love den, the bed must take center stage. So start cleaning and get rid of anything that doesn’t belong in the room and that doesn’t enhance the romantic mood. This might include the television unless videos play a part in your romantic activities.
 
Get rid of the old cotton blend sheets and go for something more sensual. Choose a sateen finish, t-shirt style or Egyptian cotton with a high thread count. Don’t try to save on the bedding. Spend whatever you can afford for the softest sheets and duvet that are perfect for cuddling after a night of love.
 
Pillows and cozy cushions are perfect for lounging and experimenting with interesting positions so toss a few onto the bed on the floor in a corner. The cushions will be handy when you need them and complement the bedroom d?cor.
 
Candles set the mood for romance. Once the bed is taken care of, the love den could use some atmosphere and romance. Choose a collection of candles in various sizes for lighting and scent. Candles are a great source of romantic light but can be even better suited to providing a sensual scent for your bedroom. Choose a warm and sensual scent such as ylang ylang, jasmine or sandalwood.
 
Avoid anything too floral or perfumed as it will turn off almost any member of the male species. Instead choose a natural or mild aroma and stick with a single scent in all the candles or make some of the candles unscented so that the smell doesn’t overwhelm the mood of the room.

Offer music options. Music adds sensuality for many people. Consider the guest(s) you plan to entertain in your new love den. Have a CD player in a discreet corner of the room with a selection of jazz, new age or classical music and any other selections that suit your lover’s mood.
 
No love den is complete without a bit of daring. Consider some mirrors on the wall for a sensuous view. Take a look at your goody drawer as well. Is it stocked with condoms, massage oil and toys? Stock up on toys and mood enhancers that you can both enjoy. When you’re ready for romance, open the doors and invite your lover to experience new sensations.





Jacquie Generra writes about sensuality and interior design for HowToDoThings.com.

Romancing the Love Den
By Jacquie Generra